Etiquette Question

Q. I have an issue with my fiance having a bachelor party. Is it ok to ask him not to have one?

A. Let's not let the influence of The Hangover, a movie of a bachelor party gone horribly gone, begrudge a future husband of a fun night on the town with his friends. No one will lose your groom! Keep in mind that this man asked you to spend the rest of your lives together. He has trust in you, like you should have trust in him. However, it is perfectly ok for you to have an open and honest conversation with your groom-to-be, express your feelings - he may feel the same way about your bachelorette party.

Most brides and grooms choose to have a fun night or weekend with friends, different than the stereotypical party involving strippers and far too many drinks. Good friends of mine had separate dinners and nights out but included both parties meeting up at the end of the night before heading home. This summer, I will have a destination bachelorette party with spas and vineyard tours with my bridesmaids and my fiance will have a suite at a baseball game and a casual night with the guys.

Don't look at the bachelor/bachelorette parties as the last fling. You will both still have many, many fun nights together and individually with your friends once you are married. Trust each other and relax!